Ok, I have started dating again. I am using online dating forums because it is just easier at this time. Anyway, it seems that I am at a strange age to be doing this. In my age group are mostly men that 1) Have been married multiple times and have relationship issues or 2) Have never been married and have relationship issues, or 3) are married and want cybersex/booty calls and have relationship issues.

The age group just younger than me are composed mostly of men that are 1) Married and wanting cybersex/booty calls or 2) Have never been married, want older women and have Mommie issues

This brings me to the group just older than me. These men represent a group that are starting to experience widowhood. These men have grown children and are good in a relationship. They have lost their loves. But this is also the Viagra and penile implant group. So far, I have been completely oblivious to this group of men.


Today I had a date for lunch with a man in my age group, and yes, he was a "Been married three times" and hasn't grown a personality in all that time! I am a nurse. I have training in how to get people to open up and talk to you, and honestly, I couldn't get him to talk to me about anything other than classic rock. No eye contact, no questions about me, no connection at all. Nothing. So I am thinking that he is really not into me, and that is ok cuz he is very boring and I am not into him at all. But, guess what? He gives me his phone number and makes a date with me to go see a movie next weekend I was so stunned that I said yes. I hope he grows a personality between now and then. Oh well, at least I won't have to talk much at a movie!

Oh man.. that is one of the things why I am not even actively TRYING for a relationship anymore

At least he invited you, he's buying

He might be shy (although for a man who was 3 times married to be shy is a little bit strange... hmmm)
If he's borring there are few chances for that to change, only that he might become more borring.... if you still go, go with open minded and give him a fair chance (but be prepared to gracefully refuse him for the next time).

Yes, I am always leary of the multiple divorces. Once is a mistake, maybe two...but it seems by three there is a problem going on.

Yes, I am giving it a shot because of the shyness factor. I know that I don't make a good first impression. But, I am also prepared to say "I just don't think that we a re a good match." and bow out gracefully.