That is almost like what happens with people who commit incest and get convicted. Sure I DO understand that they were almost certainly abused themselves, but.. in my eyes that is no excuse. Maybe I am "wired"

differently, but I would try my hardest to prevent it from happening to my kids if it had happened to me.
Or maybe it is a "you have to have lived that to know it" kind of thing though.. in any case.. it almost always gets thrown on that to make it better.. somehow.
It just strikes me as sort of similar.